"Where do you want to go eat?"
"I don't know..where do you want to go?" (Knowing that I wanted Outback)
"I think I could do Outback."
"Oh awesome! That's what I wanted."
"Well, why didn't you say that in the first place?"
"Well...I just thought that you thought......."
We have all had these conversations, aloud or in our heads before we voice our opinions. They could be about steak or sex, rompers or race issues. No matter what anybody tells you, they don't want to rock the boat.
Pluralistic ignorance can cause people to act (or not act) in ways that aren't inline with their beliefs. How can we fix this problem?
Increase the flow of information! I feel like a great deal of action lies on assumption and this is the birthplace of pluralistic ignorance. If more people share their opinions, then more people will be likely to voice theirs. If one person is talking about their love for the color of the clouds right before the bottom of the sky falls out and the heavens cry on the earth or their love of the bright yellow first daffodil of spring then people listening are more likely to respond with their favorite colors.
It is most certainly something to do with comfort. The most beautiful thing about writing books and poetry and blogs and articles is the dissemination of knowledge. Most of the knowledge that we gain is from reading. In the words of the great Dr. Seuss, "the more you read, the more you grow. " The more we share works and collaborate together, the more knowledge we can spread and we can decrease American pluralistic ignorance.